You can help stop gender-based violence

first_imgSometimes I feel so helpless and despondent about all the violence against women and children in our country and want to know what we can do to prevent this or help find solutions. I was also once a victim of partner abuse but got myself out of this bad situation. I want to now help others but the problem seems out of control.Thank you for raising this important topic, especially at this time in South Africa. Yes indeed gender-based violence has become a scourge of pandemic proportion, both locally and globally, according to the World Bank. While both men and women can be victims, violence against women, often at the hands of men, is a unique category of violence that relies on the historical and current unequal balance of power between men and women, boys and girls. Violence against women is the crucial element that reinforces men’s power and control over women throughout the world. On some level, most of us participate in the culture that supports and encourages violence against women and girls, in both small ways (like telling our friends to “man up” when they have to do something difficult) and large ways (beating or raping women and girls). Here are some small and big ways we can work to end it, or at least interrupt it, every single day.For everyone:Educate yourself on violence against women; learn the facts and the prevalence.Believe survivors, in most cases, if not all, they are not fabricating their experience to gain attention.Be aware that dating violence and sexual assault affects one in three girls and one in six boys by the time they are 18.Contact your local school body and ask them to address sexual harassment in schools.Speak out against all forms of violence, including any you witness or hear about. Report abusers (you can remain anonymous to protect your identity). Question gender roles and assumptions which most of us take for granted. For example, skewed assumptions that claim men are supposed to control women, have every right to assert their power over women, and women are supposed to be in a submissive role in relationships; that boys (or real men) do not cry and girls are emotional, irrational and therefore need to be treated like children and rightfully castigated where necessary; that men cannot control their sexuality and women who dress in a particular way provoke men and it is their own fault when a man loses control of himself, either sexually or otherwise. Respect and embrace diversity in every form, including in race, culture, gender, ability and teach this to your children from a young age. Respect a person’s right to say “no” – including a child’s right.Respect your partner’s right to disagree or have their own opinion.Don’t blame the victim, saying “she was looking for it because she was drunk” or “she was wearing too skimpy clothes”. Instead, reinforce that rape is never the victim’s fault and always is the perpetrator’s. Speak out against the media’s portrayal of violence against women and all violence.Learn how racism, sexism and homophobia are connected.Acknowledge that gender-based violence does happen in your own community.Learn about power and control tactics.Ask permission before pursuing physical or sexual contact with someone.Realise that sexual violence is about power and control, not sex.Teach children that respect is the minimum in a relationship, and lead by example.Ask your priest, rabbi, pastor, cleric, or spiritual leader to hold a special service to raise awareness and promote safety for victims and accountability for perpetrators.Avoid engaging in, supporting or encouraging sexual harassment by speaking up when you see or hear it.Teach children that violence never solves problems.Know that most sex offenders aren’t strangers – 86% are known to their victim. Be courageous; don’t be afraid to speak up for those who have lost their voice and dignity.Praise women and girls for something other than the way they look.Discourage racist, sexist or homophobic jokes.Advocate for more youth violence prevention programmes.Get others to speak out against sexual violence.Avoid buying music that glorifies sexual violence and the objectification of women and girls. Urge your local radio stations to stop playing such music.Invite Rape Crisis to speak to your class, work or community group.Stop yourself or others from taking advantage of someone who is intoxicated.Make a decision to become an active bystander by speaking up and calling for help when necessary.Respect the choices victims and survivors make to survive.Think globally and act locally; we are all impacted by any violence in the end.Engage others in discussions about violence against women.Learn about healthy boundaries and don’t be afraid to voice your feelings and needs in your relationship. Listen to others and respect their boundaries too.Celebrate all aspects of masculinity, including compassion, kindness and sensitivity.For men:Choose your words carefully and respectfully when speaking about women.Show your strength by speaking up to men who abuse their strength and power over others. Refuse to allow the media or other people to define what it means to be a man for you.Know that it takes more than just not being a batterer or a rapist to be a good man.Treat all women and girl children with respect.Ask, don’t assume you know what your partner wants.Get involved with movements that oppose gender violence. Refuse to coerce or manipulate your partner/others in order to get your way; and be willing to compromise and accept “no” as an answer – this is a sign of strength not weakness.Carin-Lee Masters is a clinical psychologist. Write to her at [email protected] or send a WhatsApp message or SMS to 082 264 7774.last_img read more

Argos Complete Sweep Of Union With 7-1 Win

first_img PENSACOLA, Fla. – UWF baseball (10-8, 4-2 GSC) completed the sweep of Union (5-12, 1-5 GSC) with a 7-1 victory at Jim Spooner Field Sunday. Kirk Maddox (1-2) picked up the first win of his UWF career by scattering five hits and allowing just one run (one earned) over 6.1 innings. The Argos will next host Southern Indiana at Jim Spooner Field starting Tuesday.”Kirk Maddox did a great job for us today,” said UWF head coach Mike Jeffcoat. “We talked about keeping the momentum, coming out throwing strikes and playing defense, and Kirk had his best outing of the year, I thought.”Argo pitching surrendered just four runs over the three-game series vs. the Bulldogs. Maddox struck out a season-best nine batters en route to the win. Chase Evans and Alex Knight combined to fire a scoreless final 2.2 innings to complete the victory.UWF tagged Union starter JR Miller (2-3) for seven runs and five hits over three innings. Joey Bend paced the Argo attack with two hits and two RBIs. Nic Strasser compiled one hit, two walks and two runs scored. Brandon Harmon finished 1 for 3 with a run scored as well.UWF opened a 2-0 lead in the first via an RBI groundout from Nick Kerkmann and an RBI single by Bend. The team added four more in the third and one more in the fourth to put the game away.”It was great to come out here on Sunday with the same energy that we had yesterday to finish up this series sweep,” said Jeffcoat.The conference sweep was the first of the season for UWF. The Argos will host Southern Indiana at Jim Spooner Field starting at 6:00 p.m. on Tuesday. The team will close the two-game set vs. the Screaming Eagles (5-4) Wednesday at 2:00 p.m.For the latest information on the Argos, follow the team on Twitter @UWF_Baseball.#ARGOS# Watch Live #16 Southern Indiana 3/6/2018 – 7 pm Preview Next Game:center_img Print Friendly Version Live Stats Full Schedule Roster last_img read more

FIFA World Cup 2018 : Harry Kane expresses distress over penalty decision in the…

first_imgAdvertisement hNBA Finals | Brooklyn Vsbo6sWingsuit rodeo📽Sindre Eh6( IG: @_aubreyfisher @imraino ) 99tzy8Would you ever consider trying this?😱1rmmCan your students do this? 🌚1hen2wRoller skating! Powered by Firework The match between England and Tunisia saw some controversial calls being given and some not given. Although England captain scored a brace in the match, he was frustrated for not being given the penalty on two clear occasions. Kyle walker conceded the penalty for throwing an elbow on Fakhreddine Ben Youssef, however, Harry Kane was denied the penalty on two clear occassions where he was bought to ground by Sassi in the first half and Yassine Meriah in the second half. On both the times, there was the availability of VAR but wasn’t used. The tottenham striker said that he maybe a bit dissapointed that he couldnt get the penalty given the fact that he thinks they got a penalty from a soft foul. But the fans spotted something in the same play where Kane went down. Replays showed that prior to Kane being brought down, Stones clearly pushed his marker to the floor. But nothing explains the second penalty not being given for the English striker. Kane being wrestled down to the floor in the first half.Advertisement However, England fans were convinced Harry Kane was fouled inside the penalty box and they should have been given a penalty. A frustated England captain, Harry Kane called out the Colombian refree to make better decisions in the nex match. He further added,”It’s part of the game. We knew from watching the other games, there’s been a lot of penalties and a lot of soft decisions. We had to be aware of that. We had one against us today and probably another couple that didn’t go our way. It’s difficult, but as players all we can do is get on with the game.It’s down to the officials and hopefully when they watch it back they will make it right for the next games.”England play Panama in their next match and Darkhorses Belgium for their group stage match.Advertisement Read also :FIFA World Cup 2018: Artem Dzyuba speaks his mind ahead of Russia vs Egypt matchAdvertisement FIFA World Cup 2018: Stats of the Day – Day 5  Advertisementlast_img read more

Four arrested: power tools, vehicles and computers recovered

first_imgBy Kyra Gillespie Three men and a woman were arrested on Friday 1 June in connection to aggravated burglaries, thefts…[To read the rest of this story Subscribe or Login to the Gazette Access Pass] Thanks for reading the Pakenham Berwick Gazette. Subscribe or Login to read the rest of this content with the Gazette Digital Access Pass subscription.last_img

NYS hosts Terry Walgren Rep Soccer Tournament

first_imgSaturday teams play round robin before concluding Sunday with divisional finals.All action is set for the Lakeside playing fields.The tournament is in honour of Terry Walgren, a longtime coach in Nelson — who skippered teams in Nelson Youth Soccer as well as men’s and women’s teams.Walgren, a graduate of Nelson Youth Soccer, played high school and men’s league soccer before going off to university where played for Simon Fraser and University of Alberta in Edmonton.Walgren, who returned to coach in the NYS rep program along with playing men’s league for the Heritage Innkeepers, died of cancer. The Lakeside Pitches will be filled with excitement as the Nelson Youth Soccer hosts the annual Terry Walgren Tournament beginning Saturday.Teams from Penticton, Montana, Trail-Castlegar, Cranbrook and Fernie join the host Nelson Selects during two days of roundball action in U12 Jamboree and Rep Tournament.last_img read more

L.V. Rogers Bombers Life of the Party

first_img“We played well and there were a lot of great individual performances, but what was most impressive from the girls was how they played a strong team game,” said LVR Coach Jennifer Kidd.The Bombers beat Grand Forks Secondary (25-8,25-23), host JL Crowe (25-11,25-11) and Boundary Secondary (25-10, 25-7) in the Friday round-robin portion of the tournament. On Saturday morning, LVR ran their record to a perfect 4-0 with a victory over Kaslo’s J.V. Humprhies (25-12,25-10) without losing a single game in all their matches.The round-robin record earned Nelson a buy into the semi-final where they beat Castlegar’s Stanley Humphries (25-8, 25-12) to book a spot in the tournament final against the Grand Forks Secondary Wolves.Dominant serving and a synchronized effort by the Bombers helped the girls clinch the title over the Wolves (25-8, 25-16).“It was terrific to see the girls play the game with confidence and trust in each other, that’s when their game flows and is taken to a higher level,” said Kidd. “If they play this way for the rest of the season, we should continue with good results.”Next up for the Bombers is a trip to Salmon Arm on the November 3-4 followed by best-of-five playdown against JL Crowe to see which school will represent the West Kootenay at the BC High School AAA Provincials in early-December. The LV Rogers Bombers senior girls volleyball team came home with the hardware from the annual JL Crowe Block Party tournament after a dominating weekend in Trail.The Bombers didn’t lose a single game over the two-day tournament that featured teams from across the West Kootenay and Boundary. It was the second year in a row that the Nelson team captured top spot.last_img read more

Bad News weekend for Nelson Leafs

first_imgSam Swanson, Nolan Percival and Peace sandwiched goals around a marker by Leafs Keenan Crossman to give the defending KIJHL Champs the one-goal advantage.Nelson sniper Ryan Cooper tied the game with six minutes remaining before Peace pieced the hearts of the Leafs with the late-game tally.Nelson outshot the Hawks 36-30 in the contest with Liam Coulter in the Beaver Valley nets registering a second win over the Leafs.Williams, who had registered shutouts in four previous games, took the loss in goal for Nelson.Despite the setback, Nelson remains tied for top spot in the Murdoch Division with Castlegar Rebels, each team with 57 points.Beaver Valley, which has won six straight games, closes the gap on the leaders and now trails top spot by eight points.Nelson will have a week to lick their wounds before taking to the road for a pair of Murdoch Division games.Friday, the Leafs travel to Spokane to meet the Braves before venturing west on Highway 3 to play the Border Bruins on Grand Forks.ICE CHIPS: Nelson bounced back after Friday’s loss to Beaver Valley by edging Grand Forks 4-1 Saturday at the NDCC Arena. Game Star Ryan Cooper scored twice while Ryan Piva and Logun Wullum added singles. Reese Tambellini scored the lone goal for Grand Forks, which trailed 1-0 after 40 minutes. Caiden Kreitz was in goal to pick up the win for Nelson. . . . After winning five consecutive games before the Prospects Games weekend in Kelowna, Nelson has dropped two of three. The good news, if there is any when a team drops two of three games during a three-game weekend, is the Nelson Leafs won’t see the Beaver Valley Nitehawks until the final game of the season.The bad news is the Hawks stole the Leafs thunder for the second time in three days, scoring the winning goal in the final minute of the game to edge Nelson 4-3 in Kootenay International Junior Hockey League action Sunday afternoon in Fruitvale.The game was rescheduled from December 29th when a power outage postponed the contest in the first period with Nelson leading 1-0.Morgan Peace provided the heroics for the home side, scoring an unassisted tally past Josh Williams in the Leaf nets.Friday, Beaver Valley ended Nelson’s five-game winning streak with a 4-1 victory in the Heritage City.Trailing 1-0 after one period on a goal by Leafs Sawyer Hunt, Beaver Valley outscored the Leafs 3-1 to grab a 3-2 lead after 40 minutes.last_img read more

Baseball: Feb. 23 Scoreboard

first_imgLamar and Southeastern Louisiana concluded the baseball weekend with series sweeps against LIU Brooklyn and George Washington, respectively, as Southland baseball picked up five wins Sunday. Abilene Christian finished its weekend tournament with a win against NJIT while Sam Houston took the series against Dallas Baptist and UIW knocked off Gonzaga at the Irish Spring Classic. The state of Louisiana had weather issues Sunday, causing McNeese State and New Orleans to cancel its rubber matchesLamar 11, LIU Brooklyn 4BEAUMONT, Texas – Kevin Santana had a big weekend against LIU Brooklyn, and Sunday proved no different as the junior helped propel the Lamar baseball team to an 11-4 victory and four-game sweep of the visiting Blackbirds at Vincent-Beck Stadium.  |  Read MoreSoutheastern Louisiana 9, George Washington 3HAMMOND, La. – The Southeastern Louisiana baseball team completed a series sweep of George Washington with a 9-3 victory Sunday over the Colonials at Pat Kenelly Diamond at Alumni Field.  |  Read MoreAbilene Christian 6, NJIT 5ABILENE, Texas – Through the first two weekends, the ACU Wildcats have gotten production from up and down their lineup, from their bullpen and off their bench.Another example of that came up in the bottom of the eighth inning Sunday afternoon with their game against New Jersey Tech tied at 5-5.  |  Read MoreSam Houston State 4, Dallas Baptist 1HUNTSVILLE, Texas – The Bearkats rallied from a Friday night loss to Dallas Baptist to take the three-game series with Sunday’s 4-1 win. Sam Houston State moves to 7-1 overall heading into a tough stretch with Rice Tuesday and the Astros College Classic next weekend.  |  Read MoreUIW 11, Gonzaga 8SAN ANTONIO, Texas – Playing their final game of the Irish Spring Classic on Sunday, the University of the Incarnate Word baseball team rallied from an 8-3 deficit to defeat Gonzaga University, 11-8 on Trinity University’s baseball field.  |  Read MoreNo. 21 Alabama 3, Stephen F. Austin 2 (10 innings)TUSCALOOSA, Ala. – For the second time in three days the Stephen F. Austin Lumberjack baseball team took No. 21 Alabama into extra innings, but junior Wade Wass singled through the left side to deliver the game-winning run for the Crimson Tide in a 3-2, 10-inning decision on Sunday afternoon at Sewell-Thomas Stadium.  |  Read MoreTexas Tech 4, Oral Roberts 1LUBBOCK, Texas – The sixth inning spoiled the Oral Roberts University baseball team’s defensive efforts on Sunday as Texas Tech completed a three-game sweep of the Golden Eagles in Lubbock, Texas, 4-1.  |  Read MoreNJIT 7, Central Arkansas 5 (10 innings)ABILENE, Texas – A day after coming back from a 7-0 deficit to beat New Jersey Institute of Technology 17-7, the University of Central Arkansas Bears’ Sunday comeback fell short in extra innings in a 7-5, 10-inning loss to the Highlanders at Abilene Christian’s Crutcher Scott Field.  |  Read MoreMcNeese State vs. Texas-Arlington – CanceledLAKE CHARLES, La. – Sunday’s series finale between the McNeese State baseball team and Texas-Arlington has been cancelled due to inclement weather.  The game will not be made up.  The Cowboys and Mavericks split the weekend series 1-1.New Orleans vs. South Alabama – CanceledNEW ORLEANS, La. – The rubber match in the three-game set between the New Orleans Privateers baseball team and the South Alabama Jaguars has been cancelled due to inclement weather. The two teams split the first two games of the set with South Alabama winning 5-0 on Friday night and the Privateers taking a dramatic 4-3 victory. New Orleans was seeking its first series victory against South Alabama since 2009.last_img read more

Tigers football falls to Neenah, just misses 3-0 start

first_imgBy Paul LeckerSports ReporterMARSHFIELD – The Marshfield football team played its best half of the season in the first half of Friday’s Valley Football Association South Division game against Neenah.In the second half, however, the tables turned.Marshfield committed three turnovers on its final four possessions and couldn’t get the ball back from the Rockets in the final 6 minutes on its way to its first loss of the season.Jose Alba-Zielinski caught a 64-yard touchdown pass from Joe Jung with 8:25 to go in the fourth quarter for the go-ahead score as the Rockets pulled out a 27-24 win at Beell Stadium. Both teams are now 2-1 overall and 1-1 in the VFA South.Marshfield led 21-14 at halftime and pushed the lead to 10 after a 33-yard field goal by Zach McManus on its opening drive of the third quarter.A fumbled snap was recovered by Neenah’s Sam Ferron at the Tigers’ 19 and Austin Belot scored on the next play to cut Marshfield’s lead to 24-21 with 1:28 to go in the third quarter.Marshfield punted on its next two possessions and following the second punt, Jung hit Alba-Zielinski on a short pass and the Neenah senior outran the Tigers’ defense for the long touchdown to put the Rockets ahead.Marshfield had its next drive end on an interception and the Rockets were able to convert four first downs – two coming on fourth down – to run out the final 5:59 of the game.“We were in a dog fight again, lose this one by three, and turnovers were an issue,” Marshfield coach Denny Goettl said. “We’ll keep coming together, we’ll keep playing as hard as we can, and keep battling back.”Belot finished with 175 yards rushing on 25 carries and Jung had 211 yards passing and 69 on the ground to lead the Neenah attack.Nick Hoheisel had his third-straight 100-yard rushing game, piling up 137 yards on 28 carries, and he also scored a touchdown for the Tigers. Quarterback Tyson Slade had 148 yards passing and had a dazzling 22-yard touchdown run in the final minute of the first quarter.Slade hit Jon Hardinger on a fade pattern in the right corner of the end zone for a 27-yard touchdown just 1:21 into the game to put the Tigers on top.Alba-Zielinski caught a 45-yard touchdown pass from Jung to tie the game before Slade’s run put the Tigers back on top.Slade scrambled out of the pocket, took off down the left sideline and turned across the field, scoring near the right sideline.Hoheisel’s 6-yard touchdown run gave Marshfield a 21-7 lead with 5:18 left in the first half, but Neenah quickly scored when Alec Elkin had a 61-yard TD catch from Jung.McManus’ field goal capped a nine-play drive to open the second half for the Tigers, but they wouldn’t score again as the turnovers mounted.Goettl said the Tigers are going to find themselves in close games throughout the season, and the first three games are perfect examples.“We know who we are,” Goettl said. “I keep saying ‘dog fight’ and I hope the kids understand now. The last couple of weeks they came out on our end. We’ll battle back and get going. We just have to get healthy again.”Marshfield plays at Oshkosh West next Friday. The game starts at 8:15 p.m. at Titan Stadium and will be broadcast on WDLB-AM 1450 and City Times Sports Reporter Paul Lecker is also the publisher of Rockets 27, Tigers 24Neenah 7 7 7 6 – 27Marshfield 14 7 3 0 – 24First QuarterM – Jon Hardinger 27 pass from Tyson Slade (Zach McManus kick), 10:39.N – Jose Alba-Zielinski 45 pass from Joe Jung (Chris Keider kick), 8:10.M – Slade 22 run (McManus kick), 0:34.Second QuarterM – Nick Hoheisel 6 run (McManus kick), 5:18.N – Alec Elkin 61 pass from Jung (Keider kick), 2:48.Third QuarterM – McManus 33 field goal, 8:21.N – Austin Belot 19 run (Keider kick), 1:28.Fourth QuarterN – Alba-Zielinski 64 pass from Jung (kick blocked), 8:25.Team StatisticsFirst downs: Neenah 15; Marshfield 15.Rushing (att-yards): Neenah 43-248; Marshfield 37-157.Passing (comp-att-yards-int): Neenah 7-19-211-0; Marshfield 10-19-148-2.Penalties (no.-yards): Neenah 10-87; Marshfield 7-85.Punting (no.-avg.): Neenah 3-39.0; Marshfield 3-38.3.Fumbles (total-lost): Neenah 0-0; Marshfield 2-1.Individual StatisticsRushing: N, Austin Belot 25-175, Joe Jung 16-69, Jose Alba-Zielinski 1-5, No. 36 (no name provided) 1-2. M, Nick Hoheisel 28-137, Tyson Slade 4-14, Braden Bohman 5-6.Passing: N, Jung 7-19-211-0. M, Slade 10-19-148-2.Receiving: N, Alba-Zielinski 3-119, Alec Elkin 2-63, Belot 2-29. M, Bohman 4-74, Jon Hardinger 4-50, Isaac Huettl 1-17, Hoheisel 1-7.Punting: N, Alba-Zielinski 3-38.0. M, Zach McManus 3-37.3.Fumble recovery (defense): N, Sam Ferron.Interceptions (defense): N, Jung, Brandon Diedrich.Records: Neenah 2-1, 1-1 Valley Football Association South; Marshfield 2-1, 1-1 VFA South.last_img read more

Manuel suggested for top IMF job

first_img“Institutions such as the IMF must reform so that they can become credible,” Gordhan said in a statement. Professor at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology’s Sloan School of Management and former IMF chief economist, Simon Johnson, told Fin24 Manuel was hotly-tipped as a possible successor. The only way that could happen, was if it reflected the interests of “all countries”. “South Africa calls for a candidate from a developing country to be given the opportunity to be the managing director of the IMF. Such a candidate will bring a new perspective that will ensure that the interests of all countries, both developed and developing, are fully reflected in the operations and policies of the IMF.” 20 May 2011The International Monetary Fund’s new managing director should come from a developing country, South African Finance Minister Pravin Gordhan said on Wednesday.center_img He said there were candidates from several developing countries who were “credible” and “eminently suitable” to run the organisation. He said if the Brics group of emerging countries (Brazil, Russia, India, China and SA) agreed on a candidate, that person could become a front-runner to head the IMF. On Tuesday, Fin24 reported that National Planning Commission head Trevor Manuel could emerge as a candidate to replace International Monetary Fund (IMF) chief Dominique Strauss-Kahn. Although Strauss-Kahn had not formally stepped down, he was arrested for allegedly sexually assaulting a hotel cleaner in New York.last_img read more